Three Ways to be a Fully Present Friend

Three Ways to be a Fully Present Friend Building friendships used to be such a difficult skill for me. I did not grow up with a lot of friends and my parents did not have a lot of friends around either. I naturally gravitated towards people but I always found myself just shy of being the most awkward or weirdest person in the room. That actually helped me to connect with many different people on many levels. However, I never could get as deep as I wanted to with people and found it very challenging to fully commit to be someone’s friend. It has only been within the last few years have I truly committed my personal time to developing and actively seeking friendships with others. I have learned that even though I possess  a natural gift to network with people, one skill I truly lacked was being “fully present” for someone. Being fully present means having your focus (attention, thoughts and feelings) all fixed on the person when you are with him or her. Multitasking gets in the way. Multitasking in the Western culture is seen as productive, a badge of honor, and a worthy skill. However, multitasking robs of really hearing, feeling and connecting with another human being. Friendships and romantic relationships often break down because at least one partner feels that they aren’t being heard or paid attention to the level they desire. Being present with someone is both an active and intentional action but reaps long-lasting, deep rewards in the long run. Here are three ways to be fully present friend or partner: Remove Distractions. Good...

3 Simple Ways to Add a 5 Minute Meditation to Your Day

It is a commonly held belief, in American culture, that there is not enough time in the day. This statement rings true certainly for me as I am sure it does for some of you too. I have to remember that there are many cultures where time is irrelevant, unimportant and even abundant. Part of living an intentional life is creating small moments that add up to a fulfilled life. Meditation has recently been in the public eye a lot lately; especially with the “invention” of meditation coloring books for adults. (I love mine by the way!)  And I am sure you have seen many articles posted and re-posted on schools introducing meditation into the classroom to calm students down and to perform better in their academic studies. Even influential medical journals are showing the scientific benefits to the brain and improved body functions from daily meditation. Meditation takes on many forms but most people think you have to sit in a complicated pose and be still for long periods of time. Meditation can actually be the opposite of that. Meditation’s purpose is to bring awareness to your body and as well as an inner peace and stillness. For some, meditation seems like a scary thing or too hard. Meditation can be: time spent in prayer, running early in the morning for two miles, painting an abstract color form on canvas, sitting in a chair and studying the trees waving in the wind; or even, a walk along the beach listening to the waves crash in to the sand. Meditation doesn’t have to be an intimidating “thing”. Actually, its’...
Three Easy Steps to Re-Charge Your Life

Three Easy Steps to Re-Charge Your Life

  Be Honest & Let Go. An honest heart creates a clear mind. Allowing honest thoughts and communication to naturally flow attracts a healthy life and relationships. Honesty, even when it is uncomfortable, initiates opportunities to sleep better, feel better and connect deeper.  Let go of relationships, habits and ‘things’ that do not keep you in a place of honesty with yourself, your higher power and relationships. Exercise & Eat Right. Exercise is critical to a healthy mind, body and spirit. It works off negativity and when you feel healthy it shows in your appearance as well as how you communicate with others.  Healthy food gives you much needed energy, regenerates old cells, and recharges your body. Meditate & Make Time for Yourself. Meditation is actually very easy. What makes it hard is our willingness to sit down and be quiet. All you need is five minutes! You can sit in your car or your bathroom or right before bed, lie down (or sit) and close your eyes. Put your left hand on your belly and your right hand on your heart. Take a deep breath and feel the air fill your lungs. Hold it for three seconds and imagine one thing, person, opportunity that you are thankful for – it can even be as simple as being grateful for the space you occupy right now. Do this three times and open your eyes! It is as simple as that! Use these three simple steps to re-charge your life everyday so that you can go into the day relaxed, renewed and ready to make it your best one yet!...